I thought that love was enough to sustain a marriage--to truly make it last a lifetime I figured you just needed to know how to love really hard. And when my wife and I got married at age 26, I was so certain we'd nailed the love part and it would be smooth sailing from there.
https://www.facebook.com/azhrsn/posts/10103023678860210 When my father died, I wrote an honest eulogy about the legacy of abuse and emotional unavailability he left behind. I wasn’t exactly processing his death as a means of saying goodbye, because I’d cut off ties with him nearly a decade previously. But the goodbye between us happened privately. And up until I… Continue reading Breaking the Rules: Dysfunctional Family Dynamics
About 3 weeks into quarantine, I began having severe back spasms. By week 4, I was barely sleeping. My nights became short pockets of light sleep with bizarre dreams that were frequently broken up by an avalanche of anxious thoughts pummeling through my mind. By week 5, I was so exhausted and stressed out that I began having panic attacks
"Oh, excuse me, you're with them?" a 60-something year old, salt-and-pepper haired woman said to me as I approached my wife, in-laws, and twin daughters in the hotel lobby. "Yes, these are my daughters," I replied, my tone a bit more aggressive than I'd intended. Her husband turned around from fawning over our babies to… Continue reading The Discomfort of Other People